Hello, my name is Mrs Keya Uasama . You can call me Keya. I’ve come to tell you about myself. When I was a young lassie I had brown hair . My family looked different from me. My mum and dad had straight brown hair. My brothers had blond hair, but I had reddish curls and lots of freckles. Sometimes they teased me and I used to get cross. I used to shout at them when they said I needed a good wash in the burn (stream) to get rid of them. I knew I was clean. They knew I was clean. Why did they tease me? Families can be like that sometimes. They like to give you a label. My sister was known as ‘the quiet one’. One of my brothers was ‘the rowdy one’, the other was ‘the clever one’. I was ‘the angry one’. They used to say it was because I had red hair, and that would mean I would be a cross kind of person. I always thought that was a really stupid thing to think. I had a friend in school that had red hair too, and freckles. At least she wouldn’t tease me. I didn’t used to get cross with her. She was lovely. We used to play such great games. We had trees in our playground. We pretended we had horses and we would gallop in and out of the trees and tie our horses up to the tree we called our stable. She was called Dianne.
One Day I heard that Dianne had left my school. She just disappeared. I was so upset. Who could I play with now? The other kids all seemed to have their own friends. They didn’t want me. My brother ‘the rowdy one’ didn’t help. He and his pals came over to me sitting alone on the step in the playground. He didn’t know about my friend leaving.
“What’s the matter with you, misery guts?” he asked.
I couldn’t tell him I was so upset, but instead of being upset I put on my fiercest face and I said ‘Get lost, I hate you!’
My brother turned round to his friend and said, “It’s no wonder she hasn’t got any friends. I told you she was always angry.”
It was just not true. But I had discovered that being angry instead of being upset made me feel a bit less upset. So I used to get angry every time I was upset. Instead of crying and explaining why I was upset I would just get very, very angry. People would turn away instead of helping me to sort out what was upsetting me. They didn’t like it when I was angry.
A woman wearing tartan skirt and shawl came to tell me about her life as a young child.
A story for a very angry young girl
Hello, my name is Mrs McIver, Mary McIver. You can call me Mary. I’ve come to tell you about myself. When I was a young lassie I had red hair and freckles. My family looked different from me. My mum and dad had straight brown hair. My brothers had blond hair, but I had reddish curls and lots of freckles. Sometimes they teased me and I used to get cross. I used to shout at them when they said I needed a good wash in the burn (stream) to get rid of them. I knew I was clean. They knew I was clean. Why did they tease me? Families can be like that sometimes. They like to give you a label. My sister was known as ‘the quiet one’. One of my brothers was ‘the rowdy one’, the other was ‘the clever one’. I was ‘the angry one’. They used to say it was because I had red hair, and that would mean I would be a cross kind of person. I always thought that was a really stupid thing to think. I had a friend in school that had red hair too, and freckles. At least she wouldn’t tease me. I didn’t used to get cross with her. She was lovely. We used to play such great games. We had trees in our playground. We pretended we had horses and we would gallop in and out of the trees and tie our horses up to the tree we called our stable. She was called Dianne.
One Day I heard that Dianne had left my school. She just disappeared. I was so upset. Who could I play with now? The other kids all seemed to have their own friends. They didn’t want me. My brother ‘the rowdy one’ didn’t help. He and his pals came over to me sitting alone on the step in the playground. He didn’t know about my friend leaving.
“What’s the matter with you, misery guts?” he asked.
I couldn’t tell him I was so upset, but instead of being upset I put on my fiercest face and I said ‘Get lost, I hate you!’
My brother turned round to his friend and said, “It’s no wonder she hasn’t got any friends. I told you she was always angry.”
It was just not true. But I had discovered that being angry instead of being upset made me feel a bit less upset. So I used to get angry every time I was upset. Instead of crying and explaining why I was upset I would just get very, very angry. People would turn away instead of helping me to sort out what was upsetting me. They didn’t like it when I was angry.
It was little things that made me angry – like when my brothers or my sister seemed to get more of something than I did. Or if they had a chance to go somewhere or do something and I didn’t. I didn’t tell anyone how I was feeling. I just screamed. I used to get into such a state. I’d hammer on the walls and stamp my feet. I’d get sent up to my room. I’d feel like I was burning up inside. If anyone came to see how I was I’d throw something at them. I only felt better after I’d had a sleep. Then I’d want to forget about it and I’d be OK until the next time. I thought it was all right to do what I did. Nobody seemed to think I could change.
But one day my Grandma’s sister came to stay. I had only met her once before. My family always said she was a ‘good listener’. I was in one of my terrible moods, shut in my room. I heard her voice outside my door. I didn’t think I should chuck anything at her. She wasn’t really in my close family so I thought I mustn’t be horrible to her. When she came in she just sat on my bed and reached out her hand for mine. I let her take my hand and I felt all the anger and tightness in my chest just turn into tears and sobs. I thought she, if anyone, would listen to me. I told her about my red hair and my friend leaving, and being lonely. She listened to it all.
“Ah,” she said,” Don’t you think your Ma and Pa would like to hear about this? Would you like me to tell them in case it makes you angry again?”
I let her tell my Mum and Dad. When they came into my room there was a different look on their faces. First I hugged my Mum and then I hugged my Dad.
“Shall we all start again?” asked my Mum. “No more name calling. If I’m upset I’ll tell you why, and if you’re upset, you’ll tell me why. Is it a deal?”
“Yes, Mum,” I said.
It made such a difference to me. I can’t say I never got angry again, but I wasn’t afraid to tell people how I was feeling anymore. I never needed to scream and shout and shut myself in my room again. I found some new friends and I did have a happy life.
Questions
1. What did Mary’s family expect Mary to be like?
2. What name was she given in the family?
3. Did other members of the family also have ‘names’? Do you remember any of them, for example one was ‘The noisy one’.
4. How might it affect a person if they are given a label, or a teasing ‘nick name’, eg. ‘the angry one’
5. How did they tease Mary? Was that fair?
6. How did Mary act when they teased her unfairly?
7. Who noticed that Mary’s problem could be solved, and what did that person do to help?
8. How did Mary act after she and her family had a new agreement, and what was the agreement?
9. Does the story remind you of anything in your life?
সনাতন ধর্মাবলম্বীদের কাছে তুলসি গাছ অত্যন্ত পবিত্র, তবে আয়ুর্বেদ শাস্ত্র এবং আধুনিক বিজ্ঞানে তুলসিকে বলা হয় ‘ওষুধের রানি’। সাধারণ সর্দি-কাশি থেকে শুরু করে জটিল অনেক রোগ সারাতে তুলসি পাতার জুড়ি নেই। তবে সঠিক নিয়ম না জানলে এটি শরীরের জন্য ক্ষতির কারণও হতে পারে। হেলথলাইন (Healthline)-এর তথ্যমতে, তুলসি অ্যান্টি-অক্সিডেন্ট ও পুষ্টিগুণে ভরপুর।
তুলসি পাতার অবিশ্বাস্য উপকারিতা
১. রোগ প্রতিরোধ ক্ষমতা বাড়ায়: তুলসিতে থাকা ভিটামিন সি এবং জিঙ্ক শরীরের রোগ প্রতিরোধ ক্ষমতা বা ইমিউনিটি সিস্টেমকে শক্তিশালী করে। এটি সংক্রমণ ও ভাইরাসের বিরুদ্ধে লড়াই করতে সাহায্য করে।
২. সর্দি-কাশি ও শ্বাসকষ্ট নিরাময়: সর্দি, কাশি এবং গলা ব্যথায় তুলসি পাতার রস ও মধু মিশিয়ে খেলে দ্রুত আরাম পাওয়া যায়। এটি ব্রঙ্কাইটিস ও অ্যাজমা সারাতেও কার্যকর ভূমিকা রাখে।
৩. মানসিক চাপ ও দুশ্চিন্তা কমায়: তুলসি একটি শক্তিশালী ‘অ্যাডাপ্টোজেন’, যা শরীরের কর্টিসল হরমোনের মাত্রা নিয়ন্ত্রণ করে মানসিক চাপ ও উদ্বেগ কমাতে সাহায্য করে।
৪. ত্বক ও চুলের যত্ন: তুলসির অ্যান্টি-ব্যাকটেরিয়াল উপাদান ত্বককে ব্রণ মুক্ত রাখতে সাহায্য করে। এছাড়া তুলসি পাতা ভেজানো জল দিয়ে চুল ধুলে খুশকির সমস্যা দূর হয়।
তুলসি পাতার পার্শ্বপ্রতিক্রিয়া বা অপব্যবহার (সতর্কতা)
অতিরিক্ত কোনো কিছুই ভালো নয়, তুলসির ক্ষেত্রেও বিষয়টি সত্য। এর কিছু নেতিবাচক দিক রয়েছে:
দাঁতের এনামেলের ক্ষতি: তুলসি পাতায় সামান্য পরিমাণে পারদ ও আয়রন থাকে। তাই এটি সরাসরি চিবিয়ে খেলে দাঁতের এনামেলের ক্ষতি হতে পারে। তুলসি পাতা চিবিয়ে না খেয়ে গিলে ফেলা বা চা বানিয়ে খাওয়া নিরাপদ। WebMD-এর পরামর্শ অনুযায়ী সরাসরি চিবানো এড়িয়ে চলা ভালো।
রক্ত পাতলা করা: যারা রক্ত পাতলা করার ওষুধ (যেমন: ওয়ারফারিন বা অ্যাসপিরিন) খান, তাদের তুলসি পাতা এড়িয়ে চলা উচিত। কারণ তুলসি রক্ত জমাট বাঁধতে বাধা দেয়।
গর্ভাবস্থায় সতর্কতা: গর্ভাবস্থায় বা সন্তান নেওয়ার পরিকল্পনা থাকলে অতিরিক্ত তুলসি পাতা সেবন করা উচিত নয়, কারণ এটি জরায়ুর সংকোচনের কারণ হতে পারে।
ডায়াবেটিস রোগীদের জন্য: তুলসি রক্তে শর্করার মাত্রা অনেক কমিয়ে দিতে পারে। তাই যারা ডায়াবেটিসের ওষুধ খাচ্ছেন, তাদের নিয়মিত রক্ত পরীক্ষা করা জরুরি।
সেবনের সঠিক নিয়ম
প্রতিদিন সকালে ৩-৪টি তুলসি পাতা ধুয়ে হালকা গরম জলের সাথে বা চিবিয়ে না খেয়ে সরাসরি গিলে খাওয়া সবচেয়ে ভালো। এছাড়া তুলসি পাতার চা বা আদা-মধুর সাথে মিশিয়েও এটি খাওয়া যায়।
উপসংহার: তুলসি পাতা প্রকৃতির এক বিস্ময়কর উপহার। নিয়ম মেনে পরিমিত পরিমাণে তুলসি সেবন করলে দীর্ঘমেয়াদী শারীরিক উপকার পাওয়া সম্ভব। তবে কোনো বিশেষ শারীরিক সমস্যা থাকলে চিকিৎসকের পরামর্শ নেওয়া বাঞ্ছনীয়।
চিকিৎসা সংক্রান্ত তথ্যের জন্য সর্বদা একজন যোগ্য স্বাস্থ্যসেবা প্রদানকারীর পরামর্শ নিন। এই ধরনের তথ্যের জন্য এই বিষয়বস্তুর উপর নির্ভর করবেন না।
The Ministry of Liberation War Affairs has canceled the video interviews of nearly 15,000 freedom fighters conducted under a project, citing non-fulfillment of conditions.
It has been decided that the contractor involved in this work will not be paid. These videos of the interview will also not be saved.
Ministry officials said that after reviewing the videos, they found that the interview videos did not present the ‘correct history’ of the Liberation War. There are various inconsistencies in the videos. The experiences of the freedom fighters were not properly reflected in the videos. These videos have been discarded as they may create a negative perception about the Liberation War if they reach future generations.
Not only the interviews, but the entire project worth about 50 crore taka undertaken during the previous government to preserve the history of the Liberation War has been canceled.
What was the project?
This project was undertaken in 2022 during the Awami League government to spread the experiences of the brave freedom fighters who participated in the Liberation War who are still alive to the next generation. The cost of implementing the project, titled ‘Virer Kantho Bir Gatha’, is estimated at 495.7 million taka.
The project was supposed to produce 80,000 interviews with freedom fighters, 80,000 YouTube content, and 16 documentaries. The project was scheduled to be completed in December 2024, five months before the Awami League was ousted from power in a coup.
A review of the documents shows that a company named Management and Training International Limited (MTI) was awarded the task of producing a documentary based on interviews with freedom fighters. The company signed an agreement with the Ministry of Liberation War on May 16, 2023.
The agreement states that 19 questions will be asked when interviewing freedom fighters. In the video-based interview, 19 criteria are set, such as which sector a freedom fighter fought in, under whose command he participated in the war, where and how he was during the 9 months of the liberation war, whether he had any experience of frontline combat, whether he had received weapons training, and whether he was injured in the war.
According to project officials, MTI has so far produced and submitted 27,428 videos. Of these, 12,788 were submitted during the previous government. They have been preserved in the Bangladesh Film Archive. 14,640 submitted later were discarded during the interim government.
Why cancel?
Project officials say that the videos that were rejected did not meet these criteria.
Afrazur Rahman, project director of the ‘Veer Kanthe Birgatha’ project, told Prothom Alo that the contractor did not follow the standards that were asked to be followed in making videos of freedom fighters.
He said that the interim government took responsibility and asked the contractor to stop making videos, but the contractor did not comply, adding, “That is why their bill has not been paid. The project has been canceled.”
The Awami League government fell on August 5, 2024, in a student uprising. The interim government led by Professor Muhammad Yunus took office three days later, on August 8. Taking charge as the advisor to the Ministry of Liberation War, Faruq-e-Azam ordered the formation of a 10-member committee to scrutinize and select videos based on interviews of brave freedom fighters. The committee was chaired by Ziauddin Ahmed, Additional Secretary of the Ministry of Liberation War.
There is a tomboy named Tinon. Most of the time she dresses like a boy though she is a cute & pretty young woman . She has attractive dimples & refreshing smile. By the way, She ‘s an woman with big heart . She looks after to the under privileged children like us . We love her immensely.
As a feminist and ex-tomboy, she often thinks about how her expression of gender has evolved over the course of her life. She is still unsure whether her childhood identity as a tomboy, and her later decision to spurn this identity, arose from a desire to conform or from a genuine shift in her sense of self. Her attempt to make sense of this change involves a lot of self-reflection and some crucial realizations about the limitations of the tomboy label.
According to Oxford Dictionary, a tomboy is “a girl who enjoys rough, noisy activities traditionally associated with boys.” While this definition is based on harmful and unnecessary gender stereotypes, the tomboy label often validates and provides community for those who deviate from the norm. However, problems arise when young people are taught to hate everything associated with femininity, leading to internalized misogyny and body image issues from a young age. It’s also no coincidence that the archetypal tomboy, especially in 20th century literature and pop culture, is white, straight and middle class.
Tomboy was, for her, an identity. It was a label for girls who were independent, curious, and maybe a bit too adventurous at times. Before embracing the tomboy identity, I had been a quiet and cynical loner. Afterwards, all of her friends were tomboys, and they bonded over their mutual disgust for princesses, fairies and all things pink. We played rough, spoke rudely and stayed out after dark. Basically, they were rule-breakers, reveling in the independence and solidarity of tomboy-hood.
A part of me misses the young her that had the courage to stray from the norm when it came to the behavior expected from young girls. However, her experience was also one that involved not wanting to be ‘like other girls,’ an issue that still plagues many adolescents and adults. I viewed anything ‘girly’ and pink as weak and felt guilty when she did enjoy these things.
Her tomboy-ness was about destroying all aspects of her perceived femininity. This internalized misogyny from a young age led to strong feelings of self-hatred as well as hatred towards other girls her age. There were unspoken rules at play, constantly affecting her behavior and self-esteem. She remember going to the library and nervously checking out the cheesy YA romance novels, worried that this threatened my ‘tomboy brand.’ Tomboys were not supposed to like books. And they definitely weren’t supposed to like girl books!
But she was always secretly jealous of the girls who were clean and small, the ones who did gymnastics on the lawn every recess and lunch. They never got in trouble with authority figures. They were invited to all the birthday parties. They got all the attention. I loved my world, but kind of wanted to explore the ‘dark side’ (or rather the pink side), as I saw it.
Eventually, she did. She finally learned how to put her hair up, wear trendy clothing, and apply makeup (albeit badly) to her face. It wasn’t an overnight transformation, but she suddenly began to regret her tomboy days. How could she have cared so little about how I looked? No wonder people thought I was weird and gross. I was.
The tomboy in me died away as she began to see that popularity and attractiveness were now of utmost importance. The neglected bangs were chopped off, the basketball shorts replaced by booty shorts, and the girls she had once been so jealous of were now within arm’s reach. Putting on makeup and painting nails were just what teen girls did, she thought. She even learned to like some of these traditionally feminine activities.
Her transition from tomboy to girly-girl was fueled by peer pressure and the bodily changes that She experienced as a teen. Social media, as well as new friends, made me see that by appearing more feminine, She could gain popularity, both online and in real life. One’s ability to appear feminine was deeply linked to social status.
So, she measured her self-worth with Instagram likes and by comparing myself to the prettiest and most popular girls She knew.
he also couldn’t ignore my body’s changes as she hit that wonderful age of puberty. The hormones were flowing, and so were her tears as She discovered the tiring and tedious procedures
We teach young girls to hate themselves in subtle but pervasive ways. Her fear of being weak and girly turned into a fear of not appearing feminine enough. We force labels like ‘tomboy’ onto young children, seldom allowing them to figure out their own personalities and identities. We tell children that everything they do and believe in is ‘just a phase,’ while at the same time sticking them with these labels that have tremendous life-long effects.
Many tomboys eventually come to identify as queer or trans, but many do not. Because of this, the tomboy experience is not simply one experience. Tomboys cannot all be characterized as confused girls, future lesbians, and/or wannabe boys. Why can’t adults let a child’s words and decisions speak for themselves? Why must we jump to labeling and psychoanalysis, as if we know exactly who a child is and will be just because of how they dress or who they play with?
Social and cultural norms are key in the construction of a rigid gender binary beginning early in life. Gender reveal parties, baby showers, and infant fashion are all displays of gender that associate and label preferences based solely on whether a child is designated male or female. Beyond the pink-blue stereotype, studies done in American preschools reveal that while little girls are often socialized to be polite, quiet and still, young boys are more often given the freedom to be loud, curious and even violent. The allocation of behavioral traits is not only a way of creating and maintaining order among children, it produces teens and adults who view the gender binary and behavioral sex differences as innate and natural. It allows us to start making claims about what’s normal and what’s not. It allows adults to start labeling ‘deviant’ children as tomboys, sissies, class clowns. These children are treated as inherently troubled youth, when gendered behavior and the binary are actually intensely and continually conditioned.
She doesn’t regret any so-called phase of her childhood. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with being a traditionally ‘girly’ child, and there’s also nothing wrong with ‘boyish’ or gender-nonconforming children. The enforcement of a strict divide between the two is what led to issues for her as a child who was compelled to constantly prove my girlhood (or lack of it). The idea that some girls are tomboys and some aren’t needs to be left in the past. On the whole, let’s teach kids to be respectful of gender diversity rather than reinforcing the binary with outdated and unnecessary labels.
Today, on the occasion of Vijay Diwas, the makers of the upcoming war-drama film, Border 2, dropped its most anticipated teaser. The clip was launched in the presence of fans in Mumbai at a grand event. While addressing the audience, lead actor Sunny Deol got emotional and shed tears as he delivered his iconic dialogue from the film. Check it out!
Sunny Deol gets emotional at Border 2 teaser launch event
Earlier today, December 16, 2025, Sunny Deol, Varun Dhawan, and Ahan Shetty arrived at the grand teaser launch of their upcoming war-drama film, Border 2. The teaser was dropped in the presence of excited fans and the media. During the event, Deol was requested to deliver his hair-raising dialogue, which was recently seen in the teaser.
